Confidence, not size or position, matters

Unsatisfied couples who come to me often complain of lack of knowledge about sexual positions. There are some others who take looks and physique of their mate very seriously and end up dissatisfied. Let me tell you, a great physique or some kinky positions may not give you quality bedroom time. What is more important is knowing your partner well.

Many couples in India are misinformed or under informed about sex. A conservative family background, embarrassment about talking sex even with partner et al prove to be bane.

It is often found that people assume your partner will know what you want if they really love you. Wrong. If you really love your partner, take the initiative to speak up and actually talk about what you want and what the two of you could improve upon in the bedroom. Also expecting your lover to be superhuman and all knowing is not done.

If you are someone who get a yawn just about when you look at your bed, then probably you are bored with your sex life. Hectic schedules and family responsibilities leave hardly any time for sex, let alone innovative sex. But if you want to do more than sleep in the bedroom, you should give some thought to doing it differently.

Monotony brings in boredom. When boredom creeps in, sex becomes monotonous. Try varied acts each time. There are many ways to go about it. Crotchless panties, dirty talk, kinky stuff, sexy massages, innovative positions and all can bring steamy sex back to your bedroom.

Never make sex a one-sided effort. Women think men should initiate sex. They also think men are natural aggressors and its their role to desire lovemaking more than women do. Wrong again. Dont let one person do all the work. Initiate sex more often, and when your partner least expects it. You may even try seduction during a boring car ride.

People tend to worry more about looks and physique when it comes to sex. This can stand in the way of really enjoying sex. Have in mind not every one is meant to look like a supermodel. Men have a problem. They tend to think they are not big enough where it matters most. It is always good to trust your partner to like you just the way you are, the way you like them. The bottomline is: Confidence grows with good sex, Feel good yourself in bed. Your partner will shed all inhibitions.