Most troubling after-sex mistakes

You are enjoying a steamy session of sex with your partner. And as your passion reaches its climax, an ultimate sexual joy is felt like you never felt before. The moment both of you get over with this encounter of passion, your partner head towards your study and starts reading or turns over and falls into a dead deep sleep. Imagine what a turn-off that would be indeed!

But its a common mistake that couples often commit right after enjoying an intimate session with their partner. They might have worked hard to satisfy their partner in bed, but just one little mistake can spoil all the fun!

The nature of the above after-sex mistakes makes you believe that you were just waiting for sex to get over to indulge in some other non-sexual activity. Or in some cases, they assume that you had something else running through your mind while having sex.

These are absolutely unintentional acts often terribly goofs-up and kill the sexual mood. Most couples fail to understand that switching off from the sexual state of mind leaves the other partner highly irritated.

Dr. Pushkar Gupta, a Chandigarh-based sex therapist opines, It is very likely that partners who right away indulge in something else after having sex, might have performed sex as a duty and not an act of enjoyment. While there are several ways to keep up the mood even after the actual sex is over, some partners look for ways to remain busy and thus they end up committing lesser known 'after-sex' mistakes.

Dr. Amita Mishra, sex and relationship expert states, After enjoying the sexual act, if a partner tries to get involved in something not related to sex, it surely makes the other partner feel disowned. While there should be an effort to linger on with the sexual feel even after the actual act is over, couples who deviate from this mood are certainly affecting their sexual relationship.

Here we list some common 'after-sex' mistakes that couples indulge in. So the next time you get intimate, make sure you do not switch into something just after finishing the act. Let the mood linger on for enhanced pleasure ...

Falling asleep at once : Most couples come across this problem where either one of the partners or both would fall asleep soon after having sex. This big goof-up can kill the entire charm of sex. Sleeping at once would not allow you to cherish your performance and neither let you enjoy the mood with which you enjoyed that night of passion.

Making way for washroom : Enjoying a hot shower together can be a great foreplay, but rushing to the washroom right after a hot sex is definitely not! Couples wont mind getting messy in their sexual acts, but as soon as its over, some make way to the washroom to clean-up. Though it may sound okay, they forget that the other partner might still be enjoying the mood and wants to have more of it. Heading straight to the washroom makes the other partner feel that theres been something unpleasing about the act, which spoils sexual bliss.

Calling a friend : Another common mistake that couples face after a steamy session. Its obvious that none would call a friend at odd hours to discuss official matters, so let a petty talk wait till the morning. When its time to enjoy sex, don't keep your eyes and ears stuck onto your mobile phone waiting for a message or missed calls. It makes the other partner feel as if youre just not interested and thus ruins all the fun.

Heading towards study or work : Thinking books and reading is indeed a sex blunder! Like sexual moments, its equally important to enjoy the after-sex pleasure. If you rather descend towards your study, leaving behind your partner, it wont bring any good to your sexual relationship. If you prefer reading a book instead of cuddling and snuggling, you are indeed inviting trouble into your sex paradise.

Sleeping separately : You might have a habit of sleeping separately but on a particular night when youve been intimate with your partner, exceptions are allowed. It's not a good idea to abandon your partner and pack your sheets and pillow to move to another room for a sound sleep after a lovemaking session. It not only kills the passion on that night, but also tarnishes your sexual relations.

Bringing kids to sleep along : Letting anyone invade your sexual privacy is bound to spoil your sexual pleasure and kids are no exception. Many mothers have a tendency to bring kids to sleep alongside on the same bed and if that happens after having sex, it gets worse. Well, such a gesture has all the reasons to annoy the other partner, who might have planned something more sensual to be enjoyed after a steamy romp.

Eating another meal : Eating a healthy meal together with your beloved can be a great start before a lovemaking act. But moving to the kitchen right after having sex looking for something to eat is equally disgusting. It ruins the entire passion and would make your partner feel that you didnt enjoy sex just because you were hungry and had food on your mind.